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Sent: Monday, July 10, 2017 1:52 PM
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Subject: You caveman too?
The biggest problem I have with the whole 'transguys get male privilege' idea is that for a lot of guys, we don't, because we don't really fit the masculine stereotype. Take me for example. I can pass on the days I really want to and put in the effort. Hell, today I was apparently passing to little kids while at work and not even trying, I heard a few quietly ask their parents "Is that a boy or a girl?" But even on those days I'm STILL getting 'girl treatment' in some things because I'm short for a guy, have a baby face for a guy, am not ripped or even skinny, etc. People still think I'm too weak to carry things on my own, something I get when working as a woman. People somehow think I'm not geeky enough to know what I'm talking about when it comes to some computer or gaming stuff, something that almost always happens, in general, and when it does happen it's ALWAYS just because I'm a woman. I'm actually more likely to get carded for age 18 items as a guy than as a girl - no privilege there! I could go on and on with examples, given the time, and I'm sure there are guys here who could come up with some I didn't even then. And that's not even touching the things you listed. Transmen are not all that likely to get a pay raise after coming out. If they are going full stealth and into a new job, then they're probably on a level playing field for higher pay with other men, but if the employer knows about the transition, I highly doubt they'll be looked at for higher pay by those employers who do pay discrimination. If anything, they'd be more likely to be paid less than even women. The misconception that men are less objectified than women makes me laugh my ass off. Having been in the women's bathroom or around women willing to talk freely because I'm not visibly male, I've heard things that make my internet-raised brain want bleach. Just because women are more subtle about it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. And not every woman is subtle, either... I've run interference for guys before that needed to escape a predatory woman. Finally, the idea that public crying is the only part that matters in the 'guys don't cry' privilege is flat out wrong. People are less uncomfortable if it's a woman crying publicly, sure, but guys aren't allowed to cry *ever.* Even just in private. It's something I have struggled with myself. I don't want to fall into that mindset that I don't get to cry, but it's so ingrained into society that crying even just by myself, with no one around, is hard to allow myself to do. Even if there's 0 chance of anyone 'catching' me crying, it's just hard. Bottom line, 'male privilege' is a thing, but it's a thing that even men don't experience equally, and is offset with male expectations. That's not something that can be denied imo. Sent from Mail for Windows 10